same story again…

Update: November 23rd, 2010.

Note: Due to a request by the person mentioned below, his name has been modified to hide his real identity as the content of my blog may hurt his current and future family life.  This blog is for me to express myself and it is not intended to affect the parties involved in any way. 

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September 3 Update: Mr. Aries got married on August 18 to Miss Unknown.  They have been together for approximately 2.5 yrs.  Apparently he didn't tell me he was engaged because he thought it'd be easier to persuade me to "spend time with him" if I only thought he had a girlfriend.

I am still chatting with him in hopes of some day inform his new wife of his behavior.

I really don't understand why men behave in this way.  What a disappointment.

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June 18th…

I am deeply disappointed today.  It all started last night when I was talking to Mr. Aries.  The origin of my disappointment is not that I was talking to him but what came out of that exchange. 
As a single woman I understand that when one has a profile on a “dating'” website there is a chance of encountering cheaters, liars, psychos and others.  Luckily, for me, this is not generally the case as I have been very lucky to only get requests from people who are single.  The elimination process helps me find out more about the person through emails, chats, txt, and possibly phone calls with the obvious exchange of pictures and in the past webcam. So I am prepared for liars but how do I deal with honesty?
So, back to last night’s conversation.  Mr. Aries had been flirting with me for about a week now.  He found me on hot or not and soon after we started chatting.  We found that we have many things in common and that we both would like to meet each other.  So last night he asked me if I’d like to meet him, to this I said yes and I told him he could take me out on a date.  So after he said he would love to take me out on a date and after reminding me how amazing and attractive and just overall amazing I am, he decided to tell me that there is something he has to make me aware of.  He’s NOT SINGLE.
I was completely and utterly shocked at this.  Then he goes on to tell me that he didn’t expect to find me or to like me so much or to be so attracted to me and that he was on hot or not for fun.  Also, that he is not happy in his situation (of course – they always say that).
Really? Do you think I was born yesterday? Of course I know why you did it… and I don’t approve of that kind of behavior.  See not too long ago I started seeing someone who “wasn’t happy with his gf” and he left her (for me? I really doubt it) and then went on to date me.  Well that person is no longer in my life and the most I’ll say about that is that he lied to himself more than he lied to me.
So to all those men out there… you do NOT go on a dating website and have an active profile to interact with other women when you have a woman already.  It really reflects poorly on you and who’s going to take you seriously after that? When it is obvious that you are not a man but a scared kid who doesn’t have the balls to either fix his problems with his girlfriend or to end it and start fresh.  Also, for men who can’t be without a gf please just grow up.  It is only in our moments of solitude that we truly know ourselves.  So, if you’re just jumping from one girl to the next you’ll never find out what it is you truly are missing and if you don’t love yourself then you can’t love anybody else.
To you Mr. Aries, please figure out what you want and make sure you close your meet me profile on hot or not.  If you’re not single you shouldn’t be flirting with other girls.  It is inexcusable so don’t be such a baby. Grow up.  Boys are overrated.  When you are a real Man maybe I’ll talk to you again.  Just so you know, I’ve already deleted you form my contacts.

 

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This blog was not deleted because it is part of my life and it contains my thoughts on the events that transpired this summer.  It is a way for me to go back and ponder on the decisions that I made.  Whether good or bad this is my space to be me.