infidelity

This is a work in progress so bear with me. After a long conversation with a friend I realized a few things (which might not be new but now I'm sure about them).
1) Infidelity is variable. It not only changes with time but also by geographic location.
2) Men understand that they need to eventually sleep with a different woman (no feelings involved) because it keeps them young.
3) Women believe that a man that sleeps with a different woman doesn't love her anymore.
4) Older men are more skilled in prioritizing and seeing the full picture. They do not risk a whole life with someone for a short term fling with a younger hotter thing.
5) When women cheat it is because their man is not taking care of her needs (emotionally or physically).

to be continued

Rom-Coms

There was a time when I loved rom-coms. I could watch them over and over. It didn't matter which one it was. My favorite of all times is "My best friend's wedding." But now I can't sit though one without getting emotional and wondering why I made the stupid mistake to sit though another cheesy love story.
I just watched "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past" and this may be weird but I identify more with Connor (Matthew McConaughey's character) than with the female lead. I am still hurting inside and even though I've made a lot of progress on the outside, I feel like the wound is still open and sometimes it bleeds.
The movie was entertaining and I enjoyed most of it. The only thing that I didn't like was the way in which they make it seem like love conquers all. It's the same idea with any rom-com and it is getting old. Real life is not like that and although I understand that we can't see rom-coms as anything even remotely close to the real world... it is bothersome to feel this way this hope that maybe it could be possible. How big is our individual chance of living a real life fairy tale? or better... how many real life fairy tales are we allowed in a lifetime and how long will they last?
I've lived one and it lasted a few months. I wouldn't change a second of it. That was the best few months of my life so far. Rom-com? hardly but maybe there is more if we are open to the possibilities, the question is do we really want to?

a little too late don't you think?

You can't even begin to understand what went on in the last 5 years and I can't blame it all on a 3rd party or a couple for that matter. You can't be sorry for something you don't understand. I don't even know why you would have interest in what I have to say or think. If it is amusing to you to read my blogs go ahead. That's why they are public. I just seems like I was the one who was lied to by everyone I loved and that is something that will always hurt but that is my problem and I deal with it. I don't need your pity. I don't think you are sorry. I've removed myself from everyone's lives... Now they can all live in their own little world without hurting me. I do what I can to be happy and I am sure you do the same. So good luck to you... I wish your family the best.