Dating is tricky… there are things that are often assumed but never clarified. There are other things that are never assumed and tend to be clarified immediately. Funny how we ignore some important things and we give room to less important matters. So what is the right thing to do when you end a long term relationship? is there a certain amount of time that society rules you should be alone to heal from your wounds? is there a minimum time before one is allowed to start dating? once you start seeing someone… how long must you date before you define a serious relationship? Should you be friends with your ex? Are you slut if you decide you don’t want to date anybody exclusively for a while? if you jump into a relationship, should the guy feel like he’s the rebound guy or does he have a chance?
So many questions and so many more answers. Every time I ask the same question to different people I get different answers. Not that I will do whatever they say, because if I tried I’d contradict myself all the time, but, just to have an idea of what are some common ideas on the subject. In the end I will do whatever feels right at the time because I believe that as human beings we have instincts that guide us in the direction we need to go to secure self preservation and to ensure the survival of our species.
Because our world is not a safe place to live in we develop bonds with other human beings. These bonds differ from one another but nonetheless they serve the same purpose… that as human beings we instinctively strive to live in communities to ensure the survival of our community. On a more personal level the human has to make sure his genetic information is passed on to the next generation and the best way to do it is to try to have as many offspring as possible. Now here we face a problem… biology would dictate that it is in the best interest of the species for males and females to seek as many opportunities to reproduce. This is whether you have the same partner or different partners. While the female is pregnant it should be normal and expected for the male to go and find another woman to procreate with. However that does not work like that in our society. Is it because we are shaped to believe these things from the moment we are capable of understanding and we are fed that idea of a “happy family”? or is there truly a better way to go about life? to believe in endless love and respect and to devote yourself to one person for the rest of your life.
I am not entirely sure that is possible…
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